Heartbreak

I know I should post, and I'm sorry I haven't. But I'm too upset.

My dear friend Ellen, after years of infertility treatment, the loss of a baby to Trisomy 18, finally, finally got to meet her new baby a few days ago (they adopted domestically). For three glorious days, they learned what it's like to fall in love with a baby.

Until the birth father refused to sign the papers (after saying he would for seven months) and they had to give the baby they called their son back to the attorney.

I know birth parents have rights. But Ellen and her husband are just absolutely devastated and heartbroken. If you can spare a prayer for them, please do.

Comments

[cursingmama]

absolutely - what a heartbreaking story.

[Toni]

Aw, babe, I'm so sorry to read this. Prayers and hopeful thoughts coming their way from yours truly.

[Susan]

I just can't begin to imagine. I will keep them in my thoughts.

[Tine]

Definitely will do.

This happened last month to a friend of mine, and the sadness and confusion all around is just heart-rending.

Please give Ellen a hug for me.

[Sarah]

Oh God. This is fucking awful--a nightmare nobody should have to endure.
I'm so so sorry to hear this, and of course am thinking of her. And you.

[gillian]

I am really sorry about your friend..my thoughts and prayers are with her and her family during this terrible time..

[Cat, Galloping]

I cannot (okay, don't want to) begin to imagine.

[Pronoia]

I'll keep them in my thoughts.

[Julie]

And it's not the first birth parent to change their mind. I think they've lost a few referrals as well.

My heart is just breaking for them.

[Leggy]

Oh God, that is just so awful. I'm sorry they are going through such heartache.

[Reese]

FUCK!

I'll be praying for them. That just breaks my heart...

Fuck, fuck, fuck.

[tyanneh]

I am so sorry, don't know what to say. I will pray for them. I don't know how adoption works, but can they take any legal action to try to fight for custody?

[Stephanie]

oh, that just breaks my heart for them.....I'm so sorry that this happened...I would think it would be akin to an actual LOSS.....my sympathies to them!
S

[Journeywoman]

I'm so sorry.

That just sucks. It just does!

[ladykuri]

Ugh that just sucks. We'll be thinking of them.

[Lisa O]

The hair on the back of my neck just stood up - I am so angry and upset for your friends! All I know to do is pray that the birth father will have a change of heart. This is SOO unfair and they will remain in my prayers.

[jennifer]

I'm sorry for your friend. That must be heartbreaking.

[Lisa]

So, so sorry. That totally totally fucking sucks.

[Brooklyn Girl]

Just awful. Your poor friend.

[Another Ellen]

I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to them.

[Lynn]

This is very sad and I will pray for your friends to get through this awful time and become the parents they deserve to be.

This is a small point, but the baby's father really is not the birth father until he signs the papers. Until then he is the father.

[Menita]

That is horrible. Dusting off a prayer for them right now. How heartbreaking.

[Stacy]

That's terrible. I hope they'll find unexpected joy and happiness beyond their wildest imaginations... soon!

[Amy]

Heart breaking. So sorry for them.

[Kellie]

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. How sad and difficult that must be :*(