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February 2008

February 08, 2008

20 Months

My Darling Tori Anne,

Yesterday you turned 20 months old. We still call you the baby, but the truth is, you really aren't a baby anymore. You are a full-on child, a kid, a toddler--and a handful. You have grown into the smartest, wiliest, most clever toddler I've ever seen. The ladies at the morning care program where you spend three mornings a week put it euphemistically this way: "That child has enough personality for three kids!" It's true. You do.

Package

Over the last month two major changes have taken place; first off, you talk. A LOT. You say full sentences quite frequently, but only about a third of those sentences are in English so no one knows what you are talking about. You tell us, however, at great length about various things that have gone on or that you've witnessed. For instance, when I came home with a new hairstyle the other day, you had nearly as much to say about it as the internets, and judging by your smile, you were nearly as complimentary. You are clearly going to take after both of your parents and be a chatterbox. Neither of us are capable of ever shutting up. It's going to be very loud in this house.

The second change is the CLIMBING. Oh my GOD do you CLIMB. At first, it was just the couch. Then it was the chairs. Then it was the piano bench. But then all of a sudden we turned our backs for two seconds and you were on top of the piano. NO, I MEAN ON TOP. ABOVE THE KEYS. You nearly gave your daddy a heart attack. You've climbed up on the dining room table, onto the ottoman, onto the window sill above the couch. You've attempted to climb on top of the television, the fireplace, the refrigerator, and the dog. None of those has worked out quite yet. THANK GOD. Both of us have no idea what to do about the climbing. We've hidden the piano bench, but unless we remove all of the furniture from the first floor all we can do is tell you to sit down and tell you no. You continue to think "no" is very, very funny. We'll often run toward you trying to stop you from some dangerous climbing you are attempting and you will quickly sit down and say "sheet." As if, all along, you were only planning to sit.

Daddys_hat

You've also gotten much more clear ideas of what you want over the last month, but what you want, sadly, often clashes with what we want or need. So this has led to more crying and whining and fussing than we are used to seeing from you. Oh, and HITTING. The hitting? Not so much fun for mommy. Lots of face slapping going on (you, slapping me, not the other way around). Luckily, you are also still adorable and that balances things out.

Peekaboo

You've gotten into dress-up lately. You play with hats, with tiaras, and with all the very cool necklaces your internet auntie Stacey sent you from Mardi Gras in New Orleans (you especially love the rubber duckie one). In an odd sign of your intuitiveness, you seem to have connected Mardi Gras beads with female nudity because right after they arrived, you began taking off your shirt. No, really. You've been running around the house topless wearing nothing but beads for several days now (unfortunately, by the time I get the camera you take off the beads and come running over to see Sarah because you believe she lives in the camera).

Tiara

In between all the climbing, you continue to display musical talent that is very exciting. You sing more now, mostly with that crazy screaming DORA!, but also with me sometimes. You've also become even more cuddly, and one of your favorite things to do is to sit on Daddy's lap and watch videos of trains on the computer. If you see the laptops come out, you yell, "Choo choo!" and demand to come up so you can see the trains. And by the way, I will tell you what the "DILF" on Daddy's shirt means when you're older.

Dilf

We didn't get the chance to take you on too many new adventures this month because we've been working hard and also we've been busy trying to help someone who doesn't seem to want much help. Plus, we're planning on taking you on your biggest adventure yet, one that involves airplanes and deserts and the Grand Canyon and meeting your real life aunts and uncles and cousins!

We got your hair cut this month, and we had to actually get you a real honest-to-god hairstyle because you were beginning to resemble the feral kid in the Mad Max movie. It was tough for the hairdressers because kids your age don't usually have quite this much hair and you HATED getting it cut and cried and cried and cried. It was so sad. And they even had Nemo playing right in front of where you were getting the cut! I wanted to leave it long, but you no longer tolerate ponytails or barrettes of any kind, so I wanted something that looked neat and clean. Oddly enough, you now resemble a famous celebrity baby. But, of course, WAAAAAAY cuter.

Torihaircut

Tori, you are a willful, smart, challenging little girl these days. I can't believe we are going to get on a plane and fly across the country with you. I get tired just thinking about it. But I love you more fiercely all the time, and you continue to amaze me with your awesomeness. You are a great little girl, and I am so glad you are mine.

Tori_upclose

February 06, 2008

Most. Narcissistic. Post. Ever.

So, the hair. I wasn't sure when I left the salon. It was a tad... Joan Jett for me, and there really wasn't any pink. My hairdresser gave me "mauve" highlights to go with my brand new bright red hair color--which looks great--and I'd been thinking hot pink. But we figured we can do the hot pink when I get it touched up closer to my birthday.

But, without too much more ado, here are the before and afters. There are two afters: when I left the salon, wearing four pounds of product, and after I showered at home (after the gym, when I was sweaty, had hair dye dripping down my face, and had prickly hairs everywhere--I had to shower). I like it a lot after the shower, much softer and less Joan Jett. But I'm gonna try blowing it out next time I wash it and see how it looks. So, here they are. Before:

Before

After at the salon:

Aftersalon

After at home:

Afterhome

So?

February 05, 2008

Body Image and Haircuts

So the gym is a thing, now. I go. Like, a lot. And going with a friend who only wants to lift weights keeps me honest and keeps my time there short (around an hour) so I'm not over doing it. Instead, I feel great.

For the first time in forever, I went to buy new clothes for our trip and didn't hate every single item I put on. I'm fucking THRILLED that tunic-length shirts are all the rage this season (thank GOD) and I even bought some stuff with *gasp* color in it and some other stuff with *bigger gasp* sequins (tasteful, rather hot cleavage-enhancing black sequins, I assure you). I bought new bras (no more nursing bras--whoot! Tori's down to nursing for about two minutes, if that, in the morning these days). One bra was RED.

Go me.

Tomorrow, I am taking the next step and doing something about my hair. Since having my hormones completely and utterly ass-fucked for five years between infertility treatments, pregnancies, and breastfeeding, it's now much thinner and finer than it used to be. The style I've had for, oh, FOREVER which is basically almost no style at all (long layers with bangs) no longer has any life to it. It just lays on my head like a dead beaver and does nothing for me. I'm sick of it. I want life and movement. Also? I want pink.

I was going to wait until my 40th birthday to get some pink strips in my hair, but since we will be visiting some of the coolest people on the planet on our trip, what the fuck, right? So I have NO IDEA what my hair will be looking like at this time tomorrow. All I know is that I am open to new ideas, even possibly something in the SHORT arena *gasp again*.

It's amazing how simple something like exercise--and only because it makes me feel good and not for any particular goal--can change my outlook. I'm thinking about this a lot as I watch Sarah struggle to cope with her 12-year-old daughter's first foray into body hatred. Ye gods, if you could see this kid--she's a toothpick! But she thinks her thighs are fat. Her thighs are thinner than my upper arms, just so you know. And lovely. She looks like a supermodel, she does. Sigh.

I swear I will look Tori away, home school her and keep her on a media blackout if I have to. Anything to keep her from this crushing self-hatred that is the cross every American women seems to bear (I know we don't have a monopoly, but it does seem like we have it bad)! Of course, I'm right now trying to fight it at the route source--here at home, in how I discuss my body and my self. Hopefully a hard working, exercising, fat, pink-haired mom will keep Tori on the body positive side of the street. Right?

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Thanks for all the great travel tips. I really couldn't wrap my mind around the whole car-seat-on-the-plane thing, but you all convinced me; we bought an inexpensive and lighter one (thank you Bookmama) that will actually be great for Charlie's new toy. US Air apparently does NOT count the diaper bag as one of our carry-on bags, so that's good news. I still have no idea how we'll get everything through the airport, but we shall see, shan't we? You all I done it, I guess we can too. 

February 04, 2008

Time To Ask The Internets

Sorry I've been so MIA of late. Things have been a little crazy around these parts. Our friend, the one we've been trying to help, has been doing some major fucking up of late and it's been spilling into our lives in some big ways. The latest thing? He broke into our house on Saturday while we were out (all he took, however, was the money he'd earned that we were holding for him to pay off someone. Yikes). Yeah, I know. Yeah, we're still trying to help him (within reason; he will no longer be working for our friends, or us, and we'll be keeping our help focused entirely on just keeping him clean and sober). Yeah, we're probably crazy (Sarah thinks so). Yeah, we're installing a security system too.  Why the security system? Because a week from today, we are leeeeeaving! On a jet plane! Don't know when we'll be back again!

Actually, I do know when we'll be back. We are flying from Philadelphia to Phoenix on Monday, February 11th (five hours straight through, baby, ye gods), renting a car and driving up to see our friend Dave! in Tucson for about a week, then driving to Albuquerque to see some family for a bit less than a week, then spending a night at the Grand Canyon (we will of course, in a nod to Charlie's hobby, be staying here although we can't ride the train--too long a ride for Tori, sadly) and then heading back to Tucson for a few more days before flying back to Philly on February 27th. Luckily, we'll be bringing the laptops, and staying in hotels with free wifi, so you should get plenty of posts and updates while we're on the road (with photos, natch). I'm looking forward to it, of course, but there are some things I'm not sure about.

So, my darling readers, time to tap your extensive knowledge! Here are the many, many things I know nothing about and would love to know about your experiences with. I will tell you what we plan to do as well.

1. Flying with a baby. I've read the horror stories, heard about folks being kicked off planes, and we're pretty worried about this one. Our flight out is at 8am, so we'll have to be at the airport at some ungodly hour (probably about 6 or 6:30). Our plan is to let Tori run like crazy in the airport lounge with one of us alternately chasing her, then once we get on the plane to dose her with benadryl (yeah, yeah, whatever, she takes it now and again without a problem and it's a FIVE HOUR FLIGHT). The laptops can show DVDs so that's good too, and she loves that movie Cars (I don't know why, either. It's a pretty talk-y movie for a kid her age. Luckily, I like it too) so we'll bring that and some other stuff for her to watch. We figure we can try to keep her entertained or unconscious through much of the flight. But it's going to be tough. We might have to find a playground in Phoenix to take her to before driving to Tucson, however.

2. Flying with the laptops. Seriously, what do you do? You can't put them through the x-ray machine, right? I don't want to look like an idiot here. Help.

3. Flying with digital cameras. Again, help? Do they go through the machine? Sarah put hers through without a problem.

4. The diaper bag. Is it a carry on bag? Does it eliminate one of your carry on options?

5. Toys. Should we not pack any toys and just plan to hit a dollar store once we're there and buy her some and plan to toss them before we come home? I hate the idea of flying across the country with toys. We don't mind bringing a couple of must-haves (Elmo that she sleeps with, her favorite books) but most of her toys are fun for about two minutes and then she moves on to the next thing. I mean, she'd probably have as much fun with the cups and ice bucket at the hotel as she does with her toys. What do you do?

6. Weather and clothes. For those of you that live in those areas, what are you wearing? What the fuck should we pack? I know Albuquerque has been really cold, but Tucson has been pretty nice compared to Philly.

7. Things that we shouldn't miss that we can do with a very inquisitive and climb-prone 20-month-old. If you know the areas, any suggestions would be appreciated.

8. Things that we shouldn't miss that we will love cause we're grown ups. Things that we can take Tori to and bore her with.

I think that's all, but if you think of anything else, please let me know. Tori did really well on our trip this summer driving to Michigan, but she's a different kid now; we had to hide the piano bench recently because she climbed to the TOP of the piano. No, I mean ON TOP. I think she might be evolutionarily closer to a monkey than either Charlie or I am (ok, that's not true; I was just as much of a climber). She's much harder to entertain and much busier than she used to be, so I know that wrangling her is going to be a lot of work on this trip. So any tips you can suggest will be very, very helpful. Luckily, with a little help from my fabulous sister, we managed to swing a deal on hotel rooms so we're actually in suites that allow us to have her in a different room so we'll all get to sleep at least. Sigh.

So. Advise away!